Children must comply with rule 6 Children's education experts believe that these problems, the most fundamental solution is to establish a good rule for children. "For children, the rules that limit is not to do anything." For children aged 0 to 6, the prevailing rules of international children's education is the following 3 points: 1. Do not hurt yourself 2. Do not disturb others 3. Without damaging the environment Those that do not harm themselves is essential. Clearly can not hurt themselves first, children can learn to hold their own boundaries, to protect themselves. Have not only hurt their own experience, know how to respect others, and this is the basis of compliance with social morality. As for the children to the rules, specifically in the following six: 1. Boorish, vulgar behavior can not be there. 2. Other people's things can not get their own things by their own disposal. 3. Where can I get something back from where. 4. Toys and all public goods, the first to get whoever to use, then must wait. 5. Not disturb others. 6. Do something wrong to apologize, and have the right to ask others to apologize. This simple expression of the six rules of language, in fact, established a basic social order. Mother when the child can not be arbitrary rules, "obedient child is the good boy," "sitting down is the good boy," "good, do not dirty your hands" "Do not go to bed, the wolf came Diao you" "do not give to others play is selfish children "... ... these chaotic, ad hoc rules, does not make children develop a correct awareness of the rules. Implementation of the rules of a few key words Following a few key words, I believe that as long as the mother can control, we can more successfully for the child to establish a good rule. Skills Keywords 1: Elastic Mom problem 1: Set a rule, children over a period of time lost patience and began to bargain. At this time the need for flexibility to modify the rules a little? Scene: Wavelet mother wavelet allows for half an hour a day online, provided that the need had finished piano. Wavelet to observe the beginning, and later began to make: "I can not practice today, tomorrow, make up two days of class?" "Me to continue practicing this computer game right?" Parenting skills: Rules must be flexible, not the rule itself can come and go, but according to the different stages of child development, there is flexibility in the implementation of the rules. Who studied piano are well aware of the piano is very hard and boring things. Education experts suggest that if the child shows interest in poetry and painting on, parents may wish to take him to hear, see or experience, such as the wavelet mother can tell them in advance, piano is not an easy thing, a very long time, the process is also very boring. When the children encountered a bottleneck emotional boredom, you can tell them, "Yes, I know that this process is very boring, but when you have gone through and overcome, and will be great. Before you reach that goal, my mother is willing to here with you. " Dada is a senior piano teacher firmly opposed to children under the age of 5, piano, because the child attention and comprehension are not well developed, often take six months learned something, to seven or eight a week to pass, so why by this offense? Dada said the piano with my kids, I'm sure he started, but I have a request, that is, since then, your life, have to spend 10 minutes every day practicing. 10 minutes Oh! If you say, children should be blasting New Year's Eve, Can not practice? I said: You can shooting, but baby, you do not even 10 minutes it? People stressed that as not a pianist, but if we let the child know that when you decide to do one thing, you have habits, contribute to it every day for 10 minutes, a lifetime. This rule applies not only piano, but also applies to any goal, not only for children, but also for adults. It so in simple - only 10 minutes a day, but so to firm - in this life, every day, you have to for your dreams and goals to pay for 10 minutes. Skills Keywords 2: Explore the secrets of child psychology Mother's problem 2: Rule, once established, certainly when there is violation, then the parents need to punish the principles established for this purpose? Which measured what is it? Scene: Mama Bear provisions: Do not touch the power supply and television screens, touch slap palms, Cubs to first touch the TV, and then offered her hand to her mother play. Parenting skills: Why did he do this? Education does not advocate punishment, and argue that children explore their innermost secrets. This scenario is most common between parents and children of conflict. When the three-year-old child, is in the stubborn sensitive period, the more you let him do, he more to be done. The correct approach is to seal all of the home and nursery outlet, not the conditions of the children make mistakes. For other dangerous items, such as hot water, the door (which may pinch your fingers), knives, scissors, they have to tell the children the proper use and tell him under what circumstances the body may be hurt. Children touch the TV screen, probably because he does not understand why some people have a house on TV. Mothers can tell their children, it is not true and the house, to give him a TV box and let him sit inside experience, it can be said, static on the TV screen is unhealthy, it is a violation of touch " do not hurt yourself "rule. Skills Keywords 3: relaxation, quiet, laid-back Mother's problem 3: Child to eat a lot of mothers feel a headache, it should be how to set up rules, the implementation of rules? Scene: Mom knew every day, children's education experts have emphasized reducing the pressure on children to eat, but do not chase every day, forced feeding, do not eat well. Mom tried many ways, for example, do not eat that Dayton, the next meal is eaten between meals, and even the fruit did not; for example, eating only at the dinner table next to leave no food, for example at the dinner table and put a alarm clock, 20 minutes to eat it. However, these approaches are not particularly effective. Parenting skills: In the issue of food, education experts advocate adjusting the mother's attitude: ask my mom take a deep breath, accept the child. Such as children 1-2 years old have a "rice and" process, he likes the food from the bowl down to the bowl, a table is often confused with rice, but during the development of children, need this kind of play children free rice. Such as 2-year-old children expressed interest on the snacks, if the children enjoy this time of development need to be a depression, and other sensitive three-year-old into the refractory period, psychological possession of snacks to the needs of more than a taste. Eating a virtuous cycle is: tell the children why eating an elegant presentation for the children table manners, family meals have a relaxed atmosphere. Let children know that food not only for filling, is also a spirit of enjoyment, or rare to communicate with family and friends, good time to express emotion. The vicious cycle of eating is: mother worried about their children enough to eat, this tension so that the child fears or disgust, and then more eating bad. Parents getting more and more anxious to find ways that require children to eat until the chase feeding, and ultimately allow children to eat completely lost interest. In fact, two meals a person hungry, will not affect health, but if for two consecutive meals are consumed in the pressure and persecution, he will resist. Mother may wish to issue a meal to learn how to respect the child's needs. Allow the child to choose what to eat, how much to eat, how to eat. 4 skills key words: of charity Mother's problem 4: Children at home, in kindergarten learn the rules, but in other places, met the children from different educational philosophy, robbed him of his toys or playing, the parents how to explain this contradiction? How to persuade the child to continue to enforce the rules? How to calm down their parents for children to be brought against the anger? Scene: Mother to teach her lengthy, public places, toys, who should get who should play; can not be beat. But in the game field, holding a small shovel lengthy play are happy to grab up another child, Yang Yang Bu Songshou, he hit a slap in the face of the ocean. She looked at ocean lose his sad. Parenting skills: Construct a successful self-rule in the child, there is a kind of inner strength. Powerful inner strength like water, soft, tolerant, but they have to change each other's energy. When such a child to face conflict, there may be two forms: one is not actively hurt others, but clearly tell each other "Do not hurt me," the courage to hurt themselves again when the other side, dare to fight back. Another is to choose to leave, which means to accept this reality, but do not want to fall into the attitude of this struggle, which is a more advanced repair - you hit me, I know how you, and I know that I how, I leave because I do not want you involved in this bad state. The mother's encouragement and recognition at this time can help children build a strong inner self.

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